Requirements prior to residents moving in
Including Recess/Respite Care & Adult Day Service
- A Doctors Order with Current History & Physical Information
- Current TB test or Chest X-Ray
- A Nursing Assessment will be provided to be sure we can determine the proper level of care
- Advance Directive Documents (if applicable)
- Social Security/Medicare or Other Insurance Cards
- List of Medications with Current Pharmacy Information
- Emergency Contact Information
Click here to download a Plan Ahead Form with a list of necessary and optional items to consider before and at the time of move-in
11 Strategies for downsizing into Assisted Living
For most seniors, moving from their home of many years into an assisted living facility is difficult. For some, it's nearly paralyzing. Even if they are moving to a very nice assisted living environment, the move will likely mean a significant loss of space, especially if they are leaving a house. Downsizing – the term often used for weaning ourselves from long-time possessions – can be hard for anyone. When it's more or less forced upon someone because of age or infirmity, the process becomes even tougher.
1. First, do your best to accept and understand how hard this is emotionally for your parents. They have to part from a home and belongings that symbolize years of their lives, while adjusting to the reality that they are now in a vulnerable position with their health.
2. Think before you speak. Don't say things like, "How come you hung onto this, anyway?" Some people are just savers. Additionally, many of our elders grew up during the depression or other financially hard times and are afraid to throw anything away in case they will need it someday.
3. Make a rough scale drawing of the new room or rooms they will occupy. This will help everyone to be more realistic about how much room there will be and what furniture will work.
4. Don't make it harder on your parents by getting sentimental about your old basketball jersey that's still in their closet. You need to either take home your own reminders of the past or get rid of them. Do your best to cope with any existing grief of your own when you are away from your parent.
5. If your parent needs time to think before putting something in a discard pile or a donate bin, provide a third "undecided" option. Sometimes this is a necessary step. Keep compassion above your need to get it over with. Gently remind your loved one that there will not have as much room as at home, but understand that your parent may need to weed through belongings more than one time. Once their things are cut in half, you can go back and start again.
6. If both parents are involved, don't play into their marital dynamics if the stress leads them to argue about who needs to throw out what. Acknowledge that what they are doing is difficult, but remind them that they have a new life ahead of them with less work, no more hiring out home upkeep, additional friends and opportunities for group adventures. In other words, you can concentrate on the positive part of their move even if they are stuck in the negative.
7. Display the colorful brochures most assisted living facilities use for marketing. These visual cues will remind your parents that this move is not the end of the road, but a transition to another kind of living.
8. If your parent is fond of helping others, take advantage of this mentality. Do some research into local thrift stores. Many of them are run by charities. If your parent knows that what they donate may help troubled children or homeless families they may not feel quite so bereft over having to part with some belongings.
9. Make certain that there's a safe place for photo albums, gifts from grandchildren and other precious possessions. Try to make space in the assisted living. If your parent won't have room, store the items yourself.
10. Pictures and books can be very personal. Try to keep as many of these items as you can. Of course, keep family heirlooms even if you have to store them. Yes, you'll be adding to your own storage problems, but it should help your parents significantly if they know that their precious keepsakes are being preserved. Holiday decorations may fall into this category.
11. If your dad loved his tools, try to keep his tool box. Let him know that you'll keep it safe at your home. If your mom has hobbies from the past, try to preserve some of her craft tools for the time being.
We often hear that it's the little things that count. There's something to that saying. Your parent will likely get over leaving behind furniture, some clothing and even decorative objects. It's the items that preserve memories over decades that should be kept. Let your loved one be your guide, but stash away items that you think they'd want even if they don't say so. You can always weed through those things later. Try to be generous with your time and your own storage space, at least for now. Your understanding and thoughtfulness could make all the difference how they acceptance this move.